Dayn Schulman's Last Surf with Spencer and Friends
This is an email from Spencer who along with about 40 of days bros & friends paddled out on Saturday 12/02 with some of Dayn's that I shared with Spencer the day I picked them up from the funeral home. Spencer is a great guy – a true friend and was a huge rock for me and Caleb when we were in
"First of all you need to know that both Ceremonies last week were
just perfect! The one at the Perch was just beautiful with a majestic
sunset on the horizon. Green spark as well! That was mostly Dayn's
oldest friends with a few new ones as well. Digeri Doo with Stories
of the past all beautiful and we played music and sat by the fire for
6 hours. Loved it!
The Davenport Landing was the following day, Saturday, with about 40
people. Almost everyone was equipped with a surfboard and wetsuit!
Dayn would have just loved that one. We all paddled out about 300
yards off shore, gathered in a circle and Mark from Kuai was honoring
the spirit by moving the fresh lei to the center. Damen accompanied
with ashes in hand and together they placed the ashes in the center
of the lei. Then we all stated an adjective, noun, word, that
described Dayn, his spirit or anything remotely attached to his soul.
I tell you, as I write this, it is coming to my attention the special
man he was. So much flavor! About 20 of us then paddled into the
right hand reef break there and surfed...Sweet it was.
I sure missed you and Caleb as well for it would have been real
special for you to see the love. "
posted by Coda Coach at 9:42 PM
8 Comments:
Thanks for sharing that. Very moving. A lovely tribute and memorial.
I read this the other day but couldn't comment ...yes..this is a moving tribute.Blows me away how a life can touch so many and end the way Dayn's did.((sending you peace))
Keep taking good care of yourself ....
share your compassion and education.
I am grateful you share.
((Hugs))
Damon here...been thinking about Dayn a lot lately and stumbled on your blog. I talk with Marc in Kauai regularly and recently talked with John, another great friend of Dayn's from youth that was unable to make it back from Cuba for the services. Dayn was a superstar friend in all our lives!
I have a picture of Trudy recovered from one of Dayn's boxes, wondered if you or Caleb might be interested in it??
Let me know - damon@coldwellbanker.com
Peace-
I am so sorry to read of your sadness.
I am so sorry to hear about Dayn.
I did not know of Dayns death earlier.
I often thought of him and always looked forward to seeing him again.
That is why I finally tried to find him and stumbled upon your blog.
I learned that it is too late.
I was a high school friend to Dayn.
His mother and my mom both had cancer and were dying at the same time.
We were two young kids tring to make it all seem normal.
We had a great bond.
We spent many sunsets together on the top of Strands bluff,
Many summers at the beach
Many Thursday nights, ksbr night, at his apartment
With friends playing instruments to music on the radio.
I just listened and enjoyed.
I liked to be around him.
I admired him.
I loved him.
He could head up a group.
He could just relax and take in the moment.
His smile was wide and full of happiness.
He had the most beautiful blue eyes and sun light freckles
His arms were always open for a big hug.
He cruised with such style.
( I don't just mean the VW bus)
He always had friends around...
When he moved to OR I was planning a trip up to visit when my dad passed away.
Our paths changed and life went on...
I married my love Joe and we have four children.
Dayn was always on my list of baby names but I don't have a Dayn.
( perhaps Joe was a little jealous)
I was looking Dayn up to visit with him..
I did not care if he was a monk, a priest, married, single or whatever, I just needed to connect again. In a way I think we did.
I found this blog 11/12/08. He died 11/21/06 .
I am sorry you don't know of all his friends here back in the Dana Point area who grew up with him and love him.
How could Dayn forget all of us in his sorrowful time?
I do not know.
I know dozens who felt Dayn was so dear.
He left such a big impression on all of us.
We knew him as a guy so full of promise, so full of life.
I am sure they will be deeply sadden by his loss.
He was a generous man with a loving spirit.
He had a warm heart, he was my comfort.
I am not left empty learning about his death because I am so glad to have known him.
He is unforgettable,
I wish I could have told him how much he meant to me.
But someway I feel still connected and will always be so grateful for the times spent together.
"What a long strange trip it's been"
Vianne
Today I thought of Dayn and his mother whom I loved but could not save from cancer.
Trudy was not always easy to get along with, but i was by no means a perfect person either.
When she found out that she was ill after a botched surgery, she fought hard and Dayn was a good son.
Alas, nothing could save her -- not I nor wheatgrass or miracle drugs.
When Trudy died I found out about it after the fact. I suffered not only grief but guilt that I hadn't been there for her at the end.
No one knows when our lives' will end, but I hoped to know that Trudy's handsome and intellgent son Dayn was doing well.
In this Internet age much can be found in a few minutes search.
I was profoundly striken with grief that Dayn is with us now only in spirit.
Questions about how such could happen fill my mind.
Glenn
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I knew Dayn for eight years while I lived in Laguna Beach. He was a wonderful bright soul. I left SCal shortly after his mother passed away. I so wish to find out what led to his decision...I miss him terribly and was crushed at the news. If you can provide an explanation/information to help me deal with his passing, please contact me at rlbossen@gmail.com. Thank you.
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Glenn, this is Dayn's friend Louie. You may remember me as a regular at the Hare Krishna temple in Laguna beach during its hey day with the restaurant. I was very close with Dayn. Tragic how Dayn left us, and I still grieve to this day.
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